People laugh at the cliche of counsellors asking 'and how does that make you feel?". But you'd be surprised at how many of us actually can't name how we feel, answering, say, 'I feel he hasn't heard a word I said' rather than 'I feel misunderstood and sad'. Most parents hope that their children will be able to recognise their feelings better, perhaps, than they can. I often advise using words like the ones in this list as often possible around children. Give them the building blocks of a stable emotional life as soon as you can! ... See MoreSee Less
I was on BBC Radio Newcastle last week talking about infidelity (in the wake of a celebrity scandal, which sadly are often painful triggers for those in the midst of their own infidelity experience). I stressed how little support there can be for those who want to stay despite the betrayal, and try to rebuild a family. There's a lot of "dump them and move on" and a lot of "I'll support you whatever you do", and not much quiet, loving, listening. Family and friends can be great, but in this context they often lack patience for the very long time it takes to sort through the mess. I'm really proud of how my Infidelity Support Group is filling that gap. andrewgmarshall.com/andrew-g-marshalls-infidelity-survival-training-and-support-group-landing-page/... See MoreSee Less
Andrew G. Marshall’s Infidelity Survival Training and Support Group“I can’t get over my partner's affair.”Dealing with the fallout from an affair can be really tough.If you’re the Discoverer, it often seems you’ve got to do the lion’s share of rescuing your relationship.No wonder you f...
Parenting advice: mostly well-meaning, but it is a big cause of rifts between partners, especially when delivered by parents-in-law. I recommend if one of you is offended, find a quiet moment to sit down as a couple and talk through your feelings. Give yourselves time to reflect, and then revisit it again later. I'd love to know if this been an issue for you? A) Yes - and we've learnt how to manage it together B) Yes - and it's always a cause of tension C) No - our family and friends don't like to 'interfere' D) No - we happily ignore people like this! ... See MoreSee Less
Tonight I'm hosting a Live Q&A in my Infidelity Support Group looking at rebuilding intimacy after a partner's affair. If you've suffered the pain of infidelity and would like regular access to my advice, plus a community of people going through the same experience, take a look at my Group. We'd love to have you on board. andrewgmarshall.com/infidelity-support-group-london/... See MoreSee Less
What are you saying goodbye to? And what changes do you hope to make in your relationship in 2019? Remember, "little and often" will probably work better than aiming for a huge transformation. ... See MoreSee Less