Mary from my online Support Group has allowed me to share this beautiful poem she wrote recently. I hope you find it as inspiring as we all did:
When He Left By Mary Inman Begley
When He left He used the emergency exit The one hidden behind three children grown having children of their own The one buried under summer naps inside sun-drenched tents The one surrounded by foot rubs & sci-fi movies The one labeled “never use” by A woman in love.
When He Left She wore Sorrow’s glasses with gangster-car windows & interrogation-room mirrors Reflecting her pain.
When He Left She wrapped herself in Misery’s coat with straitjacket buckles & sweat-lodge heat Stifling her voice.
When He Left She tasted Dependency’s cake with romance-novel promises & western store-front facades Prolonging her lies.
When He Left She stumbled and fell into a cushioned-hell comfortably-trapped by Pity’s self And there she stayed for a time.
When She Emerged She wore Adventure’s bikini its open-sky lacings its spring-break bottoms Releasing her hippie.
When She Emerged She wrapped herself in Friendship’s blanket its coffee-cream warmth its electric-spark weave Launching her dignity.
When She Emerged She drank Learning’s cup its crisp-air lectures its linked-hands knowledge Opening unmapped trails.
When She Emerged She kicked over her basket of I’m-leaving-you hurts. And drove in her red-freedom truck To 3 toddlers jabbering & holding her hand To slumber-party friends & a cousin’s talk To jazz clubs & open-mic pubs To airports & a pink-haired watercolor woman To writers’ retreats & tap-dance classes To saucy plays & going-out-of-business sales To university quintets & smoky-air Phish concerts To soup-kitchens & tree huggers To pod-casts & a twin from the past
When She Emerged She stood And stretched Reached inside Expanded outside Looked, breathed And there she stayed. ... See MoreSee Less
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An artist friend passed on a lovely idea the other day: if you've got a bit of spare cash, make that your 2019 Events Budget. Then, as a couple or as a family, take a look online at Time Out etc, and book a theatre trip, a gallery show or a sport match every month. You'll love choosing what to do together and you'll have a list of wonderful outings to put on the calendar and look forward to. ... See MoreSee Less
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