- Publisher: Bloomsbury
- Edition: UK & Commonwealth (minus Canada)
- Available in: Paperback, eBook
- ISBN: 9781408830529
- Published: January 19, 2012
Keep your love-life passionate and plentiful—even though you’ve been married for years and have kids.
If you’ve been together for years, know each other intimately and can relax together, love-making should be easier. You’d think that would be the case but for many couples sex gets harder! It’s not just that you’re so busy, and kids do drain your energy, but talking about sex gets tougher the better you know someone.
Therefore you’re still having the same love-making as when you first met, even though you’re different people and if you do the same things (however pleasurable) over and over again, it can become routine and even boring. But don’t worry, I’ve spent thirty year helping couple deal with just these problems and it doesn’t have to be embarrassing or awkward.
What makes this book different?
Instead of lots of sex tips—which imagines that you have plenty of time and feel relaxed about your body—my programme is grounded in many years helping ordinary couples like you (who used to have a good sex life but have gone of the boil). In particular, it focuses on your relationship, the damage that a disappointing sex life can have on it and how problems outside the bedroom can impact on your intimacy.
Learn these vital skills
- Talk about sex with your partner without getting defensive
- Make peace with your body
- Harness your fantasies to feed intimacy
- Challenge the ideas about sex which are holding you back
How does the programme work?
Over my ten-week programme, I strip your love-making back to the basics: sensual touching. In this way, you combat old habits that might be driving you apart and relearn the simple pleasures of holding and being hold. Each week, the tasks build slowly and gradually—and you can stay at a level until you’re ready to move on.
All-in-all, they build to a new level of sexual intimacy which you’ve always wanted but feared was impossible.
Why prairie voles?
These are the Romeo and Juliets of the animal kingdom—they mate for life, spend their whole time cuddling and the male voles play a key part in bringing up their pups.
Scientists have long been fascinated by these endearing creatures – especially as their close cousins, the Montane Voles, practice “love ’em and leave ’em”. Their research into attraction provides crucial information about how our brains work and how to keep your sex life vibrant.
How does this book fit with Have the Sex You Want?
Have the Sex You Want is the US version of Make Love Like a Prairie Vole and contains the same programme (but presented in a different way).