Don’t despair, help is at hand.
First of all, the stakes are higher at this stage in your life than any other. You have young or adolescent children and you don’t want them caught in the cross fire—so you bite your lip and soldier on.
Secondly, your parents are getting old and infirm and statistically either you or your partner is likely to have lost one or other of them. It is a stark reminder that you are not immortal and, therefore, time is running out.
Thirdly, the term “midlife crisis” is probably going to make the divisions between the two of you wider rather than narrower. See my article Ten Tell-tale Signs of a Midlife Crisis.
I have written it for both the person going through a forty or fifty-something crisis and their partner.
I bring thirty years of practical experience from dealing with couples just like you to build bridges. I draw on all the stupid things that I did in my forties and the first half of my fifties, so you can learn from them.
Finally, I introduce a whole new vocabulary for discussing the “midlife crisis” that puts the accent on the positive aspects of reaching the mid-point in your life and making the most of the second.
“I enjoyed this book very much as it is full of the kind of common sense that eludes us when we’re in crisis. The author has navigated the choppy seas of life change and it is evident from the text, unlike in some books which leave you feeling that the writer hasn’t a clue what you’re going through.“
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With over 35 years helping couples and individuals make better relationships, I am the author of the international best-seller I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You and host the podcast The Meaningful Life. I lead a team of experienced therapists in the UK offering Relationship Counselling and have published a video-based course called My Best Relationship Tools.
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As I cannot work with every couple who wants to see me, I have put my best techniques into a new video course. Understand why you are struggling to communicate – learn how to listen, build rapport and heal your relationship.