Resolve Your Differences: Seven Steps for Dealing With Conflict in Your Relationship

By Andrew G. Marshall

If your arguments go round in circles or you’ve stopped even bothering to try, find out how to sort out your problems – without prompting more rows.

What is the best predictor of a long and happy relationship?

  • Coming from similar backgrounds?
  • Common interests, ambitions and attitudes?
  • A healthy sex life?
  • Support from family and friends?

All of these are useful but ultimately not decisive. It doesn’t matter how many problems a couple face, or how difficult, the best predictor for happiness is how well they are handled.

A good argument is the most intimate thing that you can have with your partner.

Three ways of communicating

Whether you’re in a high conflict relationship (where things can quickly spin out of control) or a low conflict relationship (where important things are only hinted at but don’t really come up to the surface), I explain how to move to the middle and show how to become assertive.

Learn this vital information

  • What really drives petty squabbles
  • Why avoiding arguments stores up long-term problems
  • The tools to have productive disagreements
  • How to save the situation

Reviews

“Teaches you to identify exactly where the anger and frustration comes from thus making it possible to find lasting resolutions to re-occurring conflicts. It is not necessary for both partners to read this book to gain the benefits either.

I like the fact that it explains how to be more assertive rather than aggressive and in doing this you can change the dynamics in your relationship all by yourself so there is not need to feel helpless anymore (which was how I was feeling). As mentioned by a previous reviewer there is some overlap in content with “I love you but I am not in love with you” but there is also additional very valuable information and exercises too.”

Amazon Customer

Book Details

  • Publisher: Bloomsbury
  • Edition: UK & Commonwealth (minus Canada)
  • Available in: Paperback, eBook, Audio Book
  • ISBN: 9781408802595
  • Published: February 7, 2011

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