If your arguments go round in circles or you’ve stopped even bothering to try, find out how to sort out your problems – without prompting more rows.
What is the best predictor of a long and happy relationship?
All of these are useful but ultimately not decisive. It doesn’t matter how many problems a couple face, or how difficult, the best predictor for happiness is how well they are handled.
A good argument is the most intimate thing that you can have with your partner.
Whether you’re in a high conflict relationship (where things can quickly spin out of control) or a low conflict relationship (where important things are only hinted at but don’t really come up to the surface), I explain how to move to the middle and show how to become assertive.
“Teaches you to identify exactly where the anger and frustration comes from thus making it possible to find lasting resolutions to re-occurring conflicts. It is not necessary for both partners to read this book to gain the benefits either.
I like the fact that it explains how to be more assertive rather than aggressive and in doing this you can change the dynamics in your relationship all by yourself so there is not need to feel helpless anymore (which was how I was feeling). As mentioned by a previous reviewer there is some overlap in content with “I love you but I am not in love with you” but there is also additional very valuable information and exercises too.”
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You can heal your relationship! Get out of the negative cycle, start to address forbidden topics and fall back in love again. My Best Relationship Tools is a new video-based course to watch on your own or with your partner.
With over 35 years helping couples and individuals make better relationships, I am the author of the international best-seller I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You and host the podcast The Meaningful Life. I lead a team of experienced therapists in the UK offering Relationship Counselling and have published a video-based course called My Best Relationship Tools.
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As I cannot work with every couple who wants to see me, I have put my best techniques into a new video course. Understand why you are struggling to communicate – learn how to listen, build rapport and heal your relationship.