It is really hard to be told by your husband “I don’t love you any more” and it is easy to panic—but that is going to make matters worse.
You could even end up getting angry and pushing him further away. Don’t worry, I’ve got six ways to avoid panicking and videos that spell out the five worst and best reactions to “my husband doesn’t love me any more”.
1. Concentrate on your breathing
Put both hands flat on your chest rising and sinking. Try and slow down your breathing and take deeper breaths. Keep this up for five minutes or until you feel calmer.
2. Burn off some excess energy
If you’re like a caged tiger or simply can’t think straight, get out of the house and do some exercise.
If childcare means that you can’t go out, tackle some physically demanding job—like the kitchen floor or hacking back an overgrown flowerbed in the garden.
3. Keep a diary or start a blog
It is much better to pour all your worries and thoughts into a diary than to burden your husband with every twist and turn of your private thoughts.
It is also helpful to return to your diary and re-read it. Hopefully, you will discover that you’re making progress and although today might be bleak, it’s better than yesterday or two weeks before.
4. Find a friend who can support you
You might think ‘“if I just speak to my husband maybe he can reassure me that everything will be OK” or “maybe if I got a few answers about why he’s so unhappy we could move forward”, but when you’re panicking the conversation is unlikely to go well.
So pick up the phone or send an email to a sensible friend who will be a dumping ground for all your fears and help you get everything back into proportion.
5. Step away
If you’re in the middle of a discussion or an argument with your husband and you can feel yourself beginning to get angry (not just regular anger that’s OK but the kind of rage where you say stuff you will regret later or start ranting) or in danger of sobbing, begging him to stay or pushing for “answers”, please step away.
Tell your husband, “I’m sorry but I need a break” and leave the room. Maybe you’d like to continue the conversation at this point, make an appointment to talk at another time or simply ask to drop the subject.
6. Be kind to yourself
My husband doesn’t love me any more is one of the toughest challenges that you’re ever going to face.
So look after yourself by eating well, cut yourself some slack (in the greater scheme, it doesn’t matter that the kitchen cupboards need tidying) and pamper yourself from time-to-time (have a long bath, buy a magazine or a night out with the girls).
I’ve further help in this video about the WORST reactions to hearing “my husband doesn’t love me any more”:
And in this video I’ve got the BEST reactions to hearing “my husband doesn’t love me any more”:
I have more help in my book My Husband Doesn’t Love Me and He’s Texting Someone Else.
In part one, I cover what to do if your husband has fallen out of love and in part two I explain what to do if you suspect or discover that there is another woman involved who is pouring poison into his ear.