When infidelity turns your life upside down, self-help books provide the hope that there is some kind of roadmap back to safety. At least, that’s the theory. But how do they work in practice?
My wife has discovered my affair or my husband has discovered my affair. Five next steps with advantages and disadvantages from a therapist with 30 years experience.
A Reader Writes… In October 2013, I discovered my husband had been having a two year affair with a work colleague (who was also a very good friend to me). I find it hard to put into words the feelings and devastation I felt and still feel. It physically hurts so much especially because during […]
You want to forgive your partner but he or she lied, cheated and betrayed you. No wonder you ask yourself, can I ever forgive an affair? So let me tell you a story about Eva Kor, 81, who is s survivor of Auschwitz and the medical experiments performed by Dr Mengele but at the trial […]
You love your wife and kids (but you’re not certain that you’re IN love) and you have a passionate connection with another woman. How do you make the right decision? Especially as someone is going to get hurt: your wife, your girlfriend and most probably yourself. I have thirty years experience helping men who arrive at […]
When something as devastating as an affair happens, you want to get back on track as quickly as possible—but where do you start?