When there is a difficult subject, we tend to skate round it and hope for the best.
Although this is understandable, it tends to make things worse rather than better. One of the topics that couples find really difficult to talk about is the Menopause. This article explores why, and gives six practical tips to kick-start the conversation.
However, this topic has a REAL impact on the couples who I counsel. That’s why I support the work of The Menopause Café to get everybody talking on this topic – not just women.
Rachel Weiss, the CEO of the Menopause Café, recently appeared on my podcast The Meaningful Life with Andrew G. Marshall to spread the word.
In 2017, Rachel Weiss watched a TV programme about the menopause and was inspired to hold a Menopause Café.
This has now turned into an international movement of pop-up events where women and the men in their lives meet to drink tea, eat cake and talk menopause. The Menopause Café is modelled on the Death Café movement, founded by Jon Underwood.
In my interview with Rachel, we discussed women’s experiences of menopause and the impact on their lives and relationships. The menopause has long been a taboo subject, and raises profound issues of shame and silence around the female body. Women have suffered due to the lack of knowledge or public conversation about the menopause, and so have their partners.
The Menopause Café is playing a crucial role in an increasingly more open discourse on the menopause, helping women to live through this stage of their lives with understanding rather than fear and loneliness.
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