You’re facing the biggest challenge of your life and you’re being torn in two. How could someone you loved, thought you knew treat you in this way? How can you ever trust him or her again?

Everything you took for granted has been swept away, you can’t get horrible images out of your head or you’re dealing with flash backs all the time. However, I have something for your to hold onto: you can turn this negative experience into something positive and build a new and better relationship.

Who is this book for?

The book is aimed primarily at the person who discovered the affair but at the end of each chapter is a section for the unfaithful partner.

There are also exercises to do together to understand why infidelity happened and build bridges to repair your relationship. Whether you’ve just discovered infidelity and are trying to get over the shock, you’ve decided to stay together but wondering how or feel completely stuck, the book takes you through the journey from discovery to recovery.

Gain this vital knowledge

• The seven stages that every relationship goes through after infidelity
• The eight types of affairs and how to recover from each one
• How to deal with “can’t be put this behind us” and “how can I when you’re trying to sweep everything under the carpet?”
• What keeps couples trapped in the same old loops
• How to communicate better and truly listen to each other

How does it work?

For each of the seven stages of your recovery, there’s a different chapter with specially targeted exercises. Don’t worry if your partner won’t read How Can I Ever Trust You Again? because changing the way that you react will have a knock on effect on his or her behaviour and help you get out of this downward spiral.

When you have a setback – which is inevitable – go back to the previous chapter and read the reassurance that it will get better.

Why I wrote this book

I wanted to share my experiences from thirty years working with couples and show that you’re feelings and reactions are normal – that’s why there are lots of case histories from couples just like you. It’s easy to think you’re still in pain because there’s something fundamentally flawed about your relationship while really it’s a sign that you’ve been really deeply hurt.

Couples who arrive at my counselling rooms with infidelity are the most unhappy but they leave the happiest. That’s because they are prepared to dig deeper and truly sort out their relationships to make certain it never happens again. Finally, I wanted to give a message of hope that infidelity doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship.