You fell in love and got married because you have fun and want to spend time together. However, since you’ve had kids, it seems like you’re just ships that pass in the kitchen giving each other lists of instructions. No wonder the spark has gone out of your marriage – but you can find a better balance between your children and your marriage.

What makes this book different?

I see couples at every step along the child rearing journey from worried about the arrival of the first child through to the impact of the last one going off to university. I’ve also heard thousands of people’s accounts about their childhood and know what leaves a lasting impact.

So I’ve combined my knowledge as a therapist to explain what children REALLY need and my experience as a marriage guidance counsellor to keep your marriage alive and vibrant so you don’t end up complaining we don’t have fun any more.

I have a message of hope—it is possible to balance your children’s needs, your partner’s and your own. I will show you how.

Topics include

• What will your children tell their therapist?
• How to flirt with your partner and find the romance again
• Work as team and avoid negative parenting patterns
• Provide good relationship role models for your children

Why did I write the book?

After writing I Love You But I’m Not in Love With You, I had a lot of correspondence from people who highlighted another important reason why couples fall out of love.

Here is a typical message from Janey which inspired me to start writing:

“Do not let children dominate your lives. I married someone who was determined to be a better father than his had been, I wanted to please him AND them and the result was we were both obsessed, with our kids and spent every weekend doing things with them. It was easy to let adult love fade away in the comfortable easy family setting.”